Own Your Size

Own your size and Love it!!!

Everybody is not going to be a size 3. If you have never been small your entire life, no need to complain about it. OWN IT!! When I say "OWN IT", I mean be confident. Be so confident that it begins to spill from your pores. Be so confident that when you walk into a room, people began to move over and clear the walk way because they see a QUEEN coming through and her Ora is exuberating. Big is beautiful!

I'm not a big girl so I don't know the struggles but "big" don't mean "busted". I know plenty of gorgeous thick girls and I don't even like to use the term "BIG", I call them "Size Sexy". They fine as wine and will quickly sit a slim chick DOWN!! When I say fierce....honey I mean it in all caps -FIERCE!!! The word beautiful doesn't give them any justice...they are goddesses and they have learned to OWN THEIR SIZE!!


You have to know what works for your particular body size. Just like every pair of jeans is not going to work for every size tushy tush, and not every dress is going to hug your curves perfectly no matter what size you are....u have to know what enhances your physique.

Your hair plays a major part on how your face appears to be shaped. Be conscience of this. Wear styles that intensify your features.
Accessories: Your choice in jewelry are extremely important!! They can either pull you all together or make you look like you were thrown together! And Lawwwddd, I don't want my sisters to look thrown together! Some accessories can even give you the appearance of a slimmer frame OR they can bring more unwanted attention to areas you are trying to hide. It can get a little tricky so find out what works for you.
For instance, I don't think every "thick" girl should wear BIG over sized belts going across their abdomen region. If your waist is not proportioned to accentuate a shapely waistline then don't bother bringing attention to it. This even applies to slim chicks who look even more foolish with big intertube going across their bellies. Everything is NOT for everybody ody odyyyy!!

Your appearance is EVERYTHING, put time into beautifying yourself. Do a little research, Find out what works for you and I can't express this enough OWN YOUR SIZE!!

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Shut up some damn Time

One of the most unattractive things is a person who can't shut the hell up.

Someone who always yapping and still ain't saying nothing. Someone who can't have a healthy conversation with anyone because they want to dominate the whole convo with what they have to say. Like the only thing that is important is what they are discussing. In these moments I literally wanna just slap a piece of thick duck tape right over their fat lips!!! Like yyyyyyyyyy must you spit out 1000 words a minute sir/maam???

Some people just LOVEEEEEE to hear themselves talk!! Then they get to making up superfical things that's supposely going on in their life and we both know none of it is true I am amazed!! Like do you reallyyyyyy think people believe you.

You can either put up or shut up!! In other words "Put your Money were your mouth is"! I chose to let my Benjamins speak for me cuz money talks, bullsh*t walks!!
Now SHUT YA ASS UP!
Pow!!

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Who Am I?

One day I woke up to complete peace.
Not one sound in the house, the only muffled noise was coming from outside as the calm winds eased in from the slightly ajar window.
The sounds of cars and trucks going past every so often was enough to perfect this level of sweet tranquility I was experiencing.

There were no distractions. This rare moment of peace allowed me to explore me. Who am I? No phones ringing, no radios singing, no kids screaming....right now I took a second to daydream. My mind quickly went back to the days when I was a child. The inspirations I had as a little girl had not yet manifested their way into my reality as an adult. I let life get in the way of pursuing my deep rooted passion. I forgot how important it was to have a simple dream. I got caught up in the ways of the world and let bills and material things guide my career goals. Instead of doing what I loved, I did what I needed to do to survive. I forgot how important it was to appreciate every single day because tomorrow is not promised. I neglected to acknowledge the beauty in the smalls things we take for granted like the breath of Life and the marvelous scenery God has placed here on Earth for us to adore and enjoy.

I got lost in what's not important in Life and I now I'm stuck wondering ...Who Am I?

*****Readers...this is a fictional story but one that I believe relates to the masses. The moral of this story is to encourage you to never lose sight of doing what makes you happy. Don't get so caught up into things that give you no validation. It's important to stay focused on your dreams. Don't just walk through life making ends meet, neglecting to enjoy the wonderful things of this world. Vacation, visit other cities and countries, spoil yourself. Work towards something that is fullfiling and something that makes your heart proud. Working a 9-5 everyday that you absolutely hate is a waste of precious life and the day God decides to call you home can u close your eyes and say...."I enjoyed my Life".

Discover your purpose and make your name significant. Take a moment out of your busy schedule to reflect on exactly what it is that you have accomplished and how many people have you positively influenced. It's never too late to start. Begin by asking yourself "Who Am I?"

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Welcome to The Future!

Wow!! the future is HERE!! Some people get nervous and scared when things from the Jetsons began making their way into real life LOL.

Check out this new Car from GM!!
This is the vehicle of the future unveiled in Shanghai.
70 years later, after the invention of the 1st motor vehicle many cities around the world have began to experience too much congestion. Traffic jams and destroying the environment are things that motorists continuously complain about.

This year's World Expo opens May 1 in Shanghai, China. This city of 19 million people will be getting first dibs on these NEW driverless cars that don't pollute, don't crash and take up less space! Wow Wow Wow!! Don't pollute, don't crash and take up less space!! I mean, what more do you need LOL!

Just five feet long and weighing about 900 pounds, EN-V (the new car design) is a two-seater that runs on electricity. Its top speed is 25 miles per hour and everyone will be moving instead of sitting in traffic. It has a GPS, combined with vehicle-to-vehicle communications which allows it to automatically choose the fastest route, based on real-time traffic information. That feature will ease traffic congestion worldwide.

Now let me play devils advocate for a second, ok the car is driverless? Now what if you are doing something unlawful (I pray you are not LOL) u mean to tell me that these cars have the capability to take your ass straight to jail because believe me the government and law enforcement is going to have it's hands all up in this.
AND...for the computer geeks what if they hack the CPU system in your car and frame you by redirecting your vehicle to a crime you had nothing to do with? I don't know how comfortable I would feel with a computer controlling whether my car goes or stops. I mean there are so many different scenarios where this idea could go wrong.

Nevertheless, its a cute design, we'll see how it turns out.

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In *Blank Stare* News....

Ok everyone knows who Sir Elton John is.

He considered to be one of the most successful composers of all times. We also know that he is openly gay and is married and living with his husband in their many homes globally.

Well they recently have had an addition to their family. Yes, they have a brand new new-born baby son! They named him Zachary and he was born to a surrogate mother on Christmas Day and appears with the couple on the cover of OK! magazine.

John told the magazine: “He shot out like a rocket. There just aren’t proper words to describe that feeling ever. It’s indescribable. It was just, ‘We have a son!’”
He also revealed that he would not spoil the child.
“I’m ready to have a child and lavish my love on our son and not spoil him materially,” he said.


Well hmmmmmmmm. I'm not a very opinionated person that sticks my nose in every one's business but this has left me with a *blank stare* on my face. The first thing I thought about was this child. A son at that. Growing up he will have everything at his disposal but what will having 2 gay male fathers do to him mentally? The surrogate mother had to get broke off some serious mooo-lahhh or else why would she do it?

Don't lie how many of ya'll women would have carried this baby for these two powerful billionaires LOL. But all jokes aside, is this a selfish action on the part of the people involved? hmmmmmm

Oh and don't think for a second that we didn't notice that Elton's husband has the same shirt on in both of the cover pictures LOL. Nasty! Just selfish and Nasty LOL!

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He's Worthy of your Praise!

Question: Are U Ashamed to praise God?

I don't see God being acknowledged like he should be and truth be told, I'm guilty of doing this for so many years. Sometime you have to tell your "mess" so that someone else can be blessed. Everyone will get to a point in their life when they realize that God is that he is....He is Real.
Some realize this at a young age and other find out later in life. Some sit right up in church every Sunday and still are disconnected.

For a long time, I was disconnected. I let the ways of the world distract me from knowing God for myself. I let the imperfection of people give me a doubt on the very existence of God. I let Church hurt push me away and dislike the gathering of the saints. Education made me question things written in his holy word. I let shame hinder me from lifting my hands and giving the Lord praise.

Things I learned in ancient books I read in college had my mind in complete shambles. I questioned some of the biblical stories that were being told. I did studies on King James and other prophets of this ancient times and the things revealed began to mess with my spirit. I didn't understand the lack the validity. It all just didn't seem real to me. I needed super natural proof for God to show me that he was real so I began to pray.
The devil began to play with my mind because he knew God's plan for my life. As I grew older I began to pay closer attention to things around me and I studied to be quiet so that I could hear God speak to my heart. God began to show up when my heart began to crave him. I know that there had to be more to this world and I wanted to understand my purpose. When God began to reveal himself to be I began to get scared.

I believe in the supernatural and I knew if it was real then GOD himself had to be real. God began to do a work on me, he began to show me things and just so I wouldn't think I was crazy he revealed it to someone else close to me at the same time. I had an experience so profound with the Lord that THAT DAY, I repented for my sins, ask him to come into my heart and help me do HIS WILL.


No, no one is perfect and God knows this, that's why everyday it's a fight in this walk to remain Christ-like. I don't look down on anyone for their belief but Whatever your religion, you got to know that...God is that he is. That statement along is so powerful: God IS, that he is!
I'm still a work in progress but my hunger for him is going to get me where I need to be. I have a thirst to be a soldier for the Lord and just when the devil thought he had led me astray God began to place people in my Life to redirect me BACK to the path He had chosen for me.

It's amazing how things will happen in your life that will be the turning point in your thinking. I went to do an interview about a book I was writing and I sat down with a woman so confident and beautiful. What made her even more beautiful was the way she spoke about God. It totally threw me off. She began to witness to my spirit and I began to want to know this Love for God that she spoke so strongly about. Her name is Cassandra Savage. She don't even know that her words pushed me closer to the Lord. I began to take heed to the words of wisdom coming out of her mouth..she said, "Don't be afraid to worship! Don't be afraid to Praise his Holy name. Began to get to know him. Study his word. Research who he is and what his purpose is for your life because you are not here by chance." She spoke with the biggest smile on her face and with so much love. Every other word out her mouth was a genuine appreciation for God's presence in her life. She gave all credit to God. I was truly inspired.

God began to line up people one by one that witnessed to me daily even when they didn't even know so. I was blown away. I'm not where I need to be but I'm not where I used to be. One thing for certain is...I know he's worthy of my praise.

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Laugh it Off

Nothing is more therapeutic than a gutt wrenching Laugh. A LOL. A hardy ha ha ha. A tear dropping, soul shattering WAAB ignant Chuckle.

Laughter is good for the soul, it's a worldwide expression and it feels great. Everybody loves to laugh and sometimes you just have to laugh sh*t off to get through your day. Sometimes ain't a damn thing funny but a laugh is so needed.

In awkward moments I laugh. When I'm nervous I laugh to mask my rattled emotions. When I'm mad, I laugh and I especially do it in the face of the person I'm mad at LOL.
Sometimes when you laugh people are laughing with you. Sometimes their laughing at you and sometimes they are looking at you like you crazy because their confused on exactly what the hell you're laughing at LOL.

Whatever the case, learn to Laugh it OFF. Life is sooo much easier when you learn not to take everything so serious. There's not a reason in the world why you should wake up mad and upset with the world when God took time to breathe breath in your raggly ass lungs LOL. I will never understand why people are so evil when you have the gift of LIFE in your body. Life is grand just learn to be happy and start it off right now with a laugh.
Some people just want to be mad for no reason but remember "you have what you say" so when someone ask you "how are you", reply with "excellent as always" because there's power in words! Words influence your thoughts and your thoughts turn into actions and actions become your Reality.

Speak LIFE and Laugh sh*t OFF!!

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Do it for the Nay-Sayers!

It blows me how people really don't want you to succeed. People would really rather see you fail and make a fool of yourself so they can feel better. I once heard a wise man say...

"Don't tell people your problems because 80% don't care and the other 20% are glad its you!"

Whewww!! That blew me! What?! Are people really that selfish?
I consider myself blessed because since I was young I ALWAYS had a heart for people. When I would ride down the street in a relatives car and see an old lady standing and freezing at a bus stop my heart went out to her and I would tell myself "when I get a car I'm going to give old ladys like that a ride". Those were my thoughts as a young girl. Those were my thoughts because I knew first hand how it felt to freeze your ass off at a bus stop. My mother for as long I can remember didn't have a car so I understood the struggle. When you can relate to people, your heart goes out to them.

My strength comes from my struggles. I refuse to look down on people because of the materials things they don't have. I refuse to hate on the next man and try to pull him down. The time I'm wasting doing that, I could have put towards fullfilling my own dreams. Today I challenge you to pull from the hurt and pain of your past and use that to fuel your desire for Success. Do it for the Nay-Sayers! For all the people who said you wasn't gonna be shit, for all that don't believe in you and laugh and taunt you for being different, for all the people who depise you and would love nothing more than for you to FAIL, you GOT to focus and strive for Greatness to show them that you are MORE on your worst day than they will ever be on their BEST day! If nothing else fuels your fire, show the non-believers that their dumb ass ways of thinking will NEVER validate who you are.

Do it for the Nay-Sayers!

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Your Resume

Ok. So I been getting a lot of feedback, Tweets and FB inbox messages from the Fellaz. Men are stepping up and would like me to address the fact that a lot of chicks resumes (penis count) is WHY they are single. Oh lawdddiee!! Oh geesh!! Let me address this because this is too true.

When you have a reputation of being passed around town then do you expect guys to take you serious? You maybe single because of your raggedy sexual past.

We all know we live in a double standard society and the way the man "sex count" is viewed, as opposed to a woman's is completely different. Men can sleep with 100 women and no one is going to look down on them. How many sexual encounters is "too many" for a woman? Does this depend on age? Is 10 too many for a woman 30 years of age? Or does it depend on "who" she has had sex with? For instance if a nice lady sleeps with ONLY 3 guys and gave it up to them quickly and these 3 guys are known around town as low down dirty trifling dogs...is this too much? Is she considered a hoe? Remember she only slept with 3 guys but she let them hit it quickly.
So many different variables can throw a woman into the "hoe" category.

When that happens some men won't take you serious because they can't be seen with you. So many dudes have had you and they all still talk about you. It's unfortunate because you could have changed from your liberal, immature and promiscuous ways but your "resume" is still how people will view you.

Another thing that women will do is hide our true count. Only we know how many dudes done really had us and we almost never tell that real number. It's funny because some women will train their minds to omit a few men because of little things like drunken nights, miscellaneous niggs, quick mistakes and no nut nights. Yeah I said it! When a man fails to make you climax, some women don't count that as a sexual encounter, it was more like a waste of time.
Some women just don't want to truly remember so we store it DEEP in the back of our cerebellums. The fact that you don't want to acknowledge your resume don't change the fact that you may have been a little generous with your goodies.

It's tough trying to find a good man out here so close your legs ladies and don't be so quick to let men in because somebody is keeping count.

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Court your Woman

Ladies are getting sick and tired of fellaz being lazy when it comes to the approach. Now let's set the stage. I'm not talking about women with no standards, you can approach them anyway you see fit lol. There are so many different types of women but I'm referring to classy ladies of value. A woman that has wifey potential. A woman that has accomplished some notable things in her life. A women who's future looks illuminating. A woman that will compliment what you have going on in your life.

Now take noticed in what I just said Fellaz, the first thing that's important is.....you GOT to have something going on in your life!!! Don't even bother to approach a real woman and you don't have one damn thing worth noticing about you. Sending texts, BBMs, late night calls, and messages via social sites is NOT a way to stand out in her eyes and get noticed. I refuse to believe that men have forgotten how to properly court a woman.

Secondly...Before you approach her how about doing your research on her. Ask around, see what she's about. Get interested in what she has going on. Even if you're not the least bit interested, you better act like it and have something to talk about lol. If she's sales art you need to do research on what types of art she's interested in. If she's a singer you need to get to acquainted with her songs and know the words to a few. Quote a few lines to impress her. If she's a makeup artist get familiar with her masterpieces and be interested in her craft. If she's a writer and you haven't the least bit read none of her articles or taken a look at her site to find out things about her how the HELL do you expect to get her attention?
That goes right into my next tip.

Thirdly you need do things to set yourself aside from the crowd. Sending flowers or chocolates will never get old. Sending something to a woman's job is a great way for her to sh*t on her co-workers and brag lol. Women love it. You can even get creative and send both, yes both. Edible arrangements is a fruit/chocolate flower-like setting that she can and will enjoy. You will definitely make your mark.

Next you need to have a game plan. When you have her undivided attention, What now? Don't say nothing corny, be genuine. Be smooth as hell lol. Ask her on a date and take her somewhere nice, secluded and intimate. Set the stage. If you can call and make prior arrangements in the restaurant for them to know her name and present her with something...damn anything lol...some exclusive wine or something that will have her wheels turning. Tell them to act like she is royalty and have a nice set up for her. Have some good conversation and revist the second tip in this article. Make her laugh. Women love a man with a sense of humor.

After that, I pray that you don't get the draws lol. If you get the draws you mistakenly confused a lady with a bucket head heifer. Ain't nothing wrong with turning down the draws either fellaz. It will show her you ain't about her body, you want to get inside her mind first. If you get inside her mind, you got her for life.

This is a start....happy hunting LOL. Now go Court ya Lady.

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New in the News

What's New in the News Worth Talking bout??

Coming up on the 25th of this month, Rihanna will have a new fragrance on the market called Reb'l Fleur. I definitely have to try this because I'm a big fan of Rihanna's fashion, style and music. She's just a fun character so I'm sure the perfume won't disappoint. I can't wait for the marketing campaign either because I know she's gonna bring it and floor us with the fashion inspirations! Oh na na What's my Name!


Now this blew my mind. This 12carat-yellow diamond ring was lost on a skiing trip in Denver, Colorado. A stranger finds it in the airport and It was so big and flashy he thought it was costume jewelry. He discovers it was real, tracks down the owner, returns it and get this.....He wanted NOTHING in return. Wow! What!! You know these had to be white people because I don't know one sista that would have gave up this big lemon head ring and I don't know one brother who wouldn't have pawned or sold it lol. I'm glad it was returned because if it were mine I would have been sick. I probably would never get over losing a ring of this value.


Sean P. Diddy Combs is diddy bopping all around the deck of the $850,000 yacht. It's the first of it's kind to be controlled by an iPad. *blank stare* Ok I'm hating. At least he won't cruising and joy sailing with some scally wag, he was enjoying this new high tech boat with Kim Porter and his baby girl twins. Awwww them on again off again suckas just need to get married. Anyhow, if anybody is gonna stunt like this, I guess it might as well be the Bad Boy himself now Take that, Take that.

I hope you enjoyed what's new in the News!

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Understand what u r Working With

You got to Understand what you are working with.

Either you have little boy or a grown ass man. Don't get the two confused. Don't be fool by the pretenders. Don't be tricked by the wanna be's. Either you messing with a real man or your caught up in a young boy.

Now it's important to know the difference because they are going to give you two different types of experiences.
A young minded man is going to act as such. Don't expect to be wined and dined, and loved and rubbed. He don't know the first thing about how to please a woman and he probably don't care. A little boy man (LOL), is pretty much all for himself and although he may care about you, he ultimately cares more about himself. Everything is about him and what he wants. He can do whatever with whomever, whenever he feels like it. He's immature and I'm not saying that in a bad way, I'm saying that he hasn't been through enough as a "man" yet to truly understand how to love and appreciate a woman. You can't even get mad at a man who is still running the streets, freakin in everybody else's sheets, not mentality ready to settle down and be in a commit ed relationship when he's mentally a YOUNG BOY!!
He may not say "baby I'm not ready to be monogamous" so it's your job to protect your heart and recognize the signs. Don't get mad, You just need to make better choices about 'who' you getting caught up in. You can't make a man surrender. Don't think for a second you can change someone who is not ready for change. Don't think for a second that you are dripping platinum urine out your p**** and he ain't going to want nothing else if you are dealing with a youngin. Majority of them are NOT going to man up until they are finished sewing their wild oats.

Now don't get it twisted. When I say "youngin", I'm not talking about age. I'm referring to mentality. When you are in the presence of a grown ass man.....whewwwww chile, TRUST ME u will see the difference. That brother is going to show you things that you ain't never experienced before and emotionally feed your soul. He's going to appreciate every follicle in your head down to the hairs on the top of your toes. He's is going to please you in more ways than you can even think of and show you love your heart has never felt. You can learn something from a real man. You can build something with a real man. You can grow together and better each other. He ain't going to be on no bullshit because he's going to keep it straight 100%. He's not going to be about any games because he done been there and done that. You will be his Queen and he will show you exactly how that feels and what that means. You will have some awesome unforgettable moments with a bondafide MAN.

You better know and understand what you are working with.

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Listen to your Gut

Always Listen to your gut.

Women were born with this little thing called intuition. As you mature you have to learn how to tap into it and listen to it. It's your best kept secret. I like to call it your "embedded common sense" lol. I say that because when your brain is not thinking and your heart is caught up, your intuition is still hard at work. Deep down inside something is still telling you to "watch out".

When it relates to relationships, the smartest thing for you to do is to roll with your instincts. If your gut is saying "he sneaky, he cheating, he lying, he a playboy" then its probably true. Men will show signs and if you don't take notice of those signs then you are setting yourself up for some bullshit. You got to know when to back away. You got to know when to run in the other direction. You got to know when to hang those feelings up and say "peace out". Women we love hard and that's why we always end up with the bad end of the stick.

Sometimes when you are truly wrapped up in a man and something doesn't feel kosher with him, you'll get a sick feeling in the pit of your stomach. That feeling is your intuition.

I'm blessed to be in a completely happy marriage and for the most part it has always been a pretty smooth ride between us which is rare now a days. OH BUT trust me I've had my share of bullsh*t niggas. It was the Bullshiters that made me appreciate the jewel I have now in a man. I don't regret much in my life because it made me who I am today and every fella who was NOT what I needed in life showed me what I needed to pray for in a man. So sometimes your situation is preparation for what's yet to come.

Let your experiences teach you. If your not learning then some of the bull you encounter is in vain. At least if you have one dumb experience but SMART enough to NOT have another LOL. It's ok, we get caught up sometimes but when you learn to listen to those Gut feelings you'll save yourself some heartache and be more happier in the long run.
LISTEN TO YOUR GUT!

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2011 New in the news!

New Year...New Entertaining News!

Vivica Fox gets Engaged over the Holidays to a 27yr old ATL Club Promotor. Oww owww You better get your groove back girl!! Im happy for her. He's fine and the ring is quite nice as well. Of course you are going to have your haters and nah-sayers but my take is....If you're happy then that's all that matters.

Christina Milian says her marriage to "the Dream" was Hell! Well got damn! She has been really going innnnnn on dude because of his alleged infidelity, before their divorce. I hope she can heal and move on. They have a beautiful baby together now and the joys of motherhood should give her some sense of peace and happiness. Hopefully

Justin Bieber...little Mr. Michael Jackson is what I like to call him. I call him that because of his status at such a young age. He has the most followers on twitter (6million+) and is second behind Lady GaGa on Facebook. He says he sometimes suffers from Insomia. Oh lawd!! Not insomia. That's torture. Justin I hope that you can find some balance because this is serious.

Toni Braxton is getting her own reality show this year. Oh how we love reality TV. This should be interesting. I know I will be tuned in. She filed for bankruptcy last year and I hope this new venture can accumulate some revenue for Ms. Braxton. Congrats to her.

OK readers this is whats new in the News!!! You know I'll keep ya'll up to date!! Toddles!!

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Jealousy is the Ugliest Trait

Jealousy is a ugly ugly trait. Do you know how silly you look when you're envious of another person. Something maybe wrong mentality if can't get your emotions in check. The most ignorant thing you can do is speak on someone or something you don't know nothing about. It's amazing how people hate some of the most successful people such as Beyonce, Kim Kardashian, and even Oprah just to name a few. Again I say...do you know how dumb you look hating on Success? Pretty damn silly. Hence the reason why you are not progressing the way you want because you're taking too much time and energy watching the next man.

People become jealous over your Success. Success comes from hard work and determination and soooo many people have no clue how how to even do that! Damn, you don't even have to pay for hard work and determination but people mad because you pratice it?! WHAT?! HAHAHA!! FOOLISHNESS!!
Some get jealous over the way you look. Now how ignorant is that? How are you going to hate on an attractive person lol...you better get mad with the maker because we have absolutely no control over that, geesh get it together!
People don't like you because you are living the life THEY WISH they could live. To that I say...this is an equal opportunity world and it's wild open for you to have whatever you like! Stop the Jealousy, put time into yourself and you'll have more of a chance to live the life you desire so bad.
People despise you because your career driven and focused. They even hate you because they secretly hate themselves.

Ladies and Gentleman the moral of the story is...if you're minding your own business, you don't have time to be dipping into the lives of others. Keep your ignorance to yourself because it makes you look like a complete idiot! Jealousy is the Ugliest Trait my darlings!

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Where's the Class?

Classy ladies are almost nonexistent!! Where has all the class gone? Has the class price gone up on the stock market? Is it sold out at Walmart? Is the bidding too high on Ebay? Geesh it must be a hot commodity because no one seems to have any LOL.

Every one wants to be a model with their ass cheeks hanging out all over the place. Legs open all over the Internet. Titties are hidden by two fingers but you have no shirt on...Really?? Ummm u might as well move them damn fingers because you showing all your goods anyway. Photographers got these women thinking "the more skin the merrier"...sad, sad, sad. Have some damn class.

The things women do for attention are acts of desperation. It has to be...because apparently you think no one is playing you any attention until you take all your clothes off. Smh...morals? Values? Class? Anyone.....(echos bounce back).

You certainly can take sexy photos covered up! Don't get it twisted. Leave somethings to the imagination. You'll gain more respect that way.

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Mama was the Cornerstone

Ya'll remember the days when grandma (big ma) use to be the cornerstone of the black family? This use to be true for majority of African American households. Big ma use to hold the family together and make sure to plan family gatherings on the regular. Some big ma's use to prepare family dinners every Sunday and the entire family would come to enjoy each other's company and an Thanksgiving like feast.


Big ma use to have the big southern style home with the wrap around porch with the rocking chair swing out front. She would have a vegetable garden out back and a flower garden out front. The trees in her yard would even grow some type of fruit. This is an illustration of a happy southern family. Everyone would be in good company with long time family friends and the good Soulfood cooking would fill the home with it's aroma. No one in the family come close to touching big ma's cooking! She had the best food in the world it seemed. Even when someone would fall ill or hurt themselves Grandma had her way with lots of old school home remedies and they all miraculously worked!Grandma meant a lot to the family because she had a hand in raising them all. Those were the days.

Now a days...grandmother's are barely in their 30's, still hanging in the club and don't have time to deal with the most precious thing life has to offer: FAMILY. You can see the shift in this cultural tradition by the lack of values and morals people have now towards family.

I pray one day we will get back to this tradition.

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Good Shyt is NEVA FREE!

What is your hand out for? Nothing in this world 'worth having' is FREE!
Freedom is not even free so what makes people think that shyt should just be handed to them? How dare you want to use people for what they have to offer and you can't give one thing in return. You can't even offer your services because you posses nothing of VALUE!!

People will use you up and squeeze you bone dry. They will pick your brain for any and everything in it that can benefit them and won't offer you one dime! They have no significance, no importance what-so-ever but want the things reserved for the elite, hard-working folks. Uggghhh...that's not how it works. People will sit back and watch you grind and fight your way to the top, wait for you to get there and then ride the elevator up to the top to stand beside you. Ugggghhh....again I say..that's not how it works!! U didn't put in on this smokey!(Movie Quote: Friday). Users are popping up everywhere....u've heard the lines

Can I get one of your books for free?....
Can you give me one of your CD's?....
Can you get me in free?....
Can you teach me how to?......
Can you show me how to?.....
Can you help me with this?.....

I don't believe in being a user. Something inside me just don't feel right asking someone for something and it's not MUTUALLY BENEFICIAL! I do my share of community work and that's about as FREE as I get. Giving back to my community is the only pro bono service I offer. My business services that will financially benefit a client will no way, any day be pro bono! (pro bono= Latin word;meaning:'without payment').

I've put myself into a bracket that adds VALUE to whatever I'm involved in. I'm making myself significant so I can request the perks of the elite.
When people start requesting your services...start requesting your money and if they hesitate to offer you anything, INSTANTLY start speaking another language LOL. Apparently their not speaking your language anyway!

Don't be afraid to request what you are WORTH because Good Shyt ain't FREE!

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Stand Out!

Its amazing how we were all born with our very OWN identity but some of us still prefer being someone else. Not one person in this world has the same finger print but you rather imitate another person that puts their pants on one leg at a time just like you do??? Ummmm I have one word for that: FOOLISHNESS.

I don't see anything wrong with gathering some inspiration from someone here and there cuz let's face it...there's nothing new under the sun. The problem arises when you steal the creativity of someone else. Another problem is when you subconsciously don't like who you are and rather live vicariously through the life of someone else. You have NO idea who you are because you are too busy walking in another man shoes. Shoes that are either too big or small for you because they were not made for you and even "IF" they are your size, I guarantee that they were designed for a path that was NOT designed for you!

Who are you? What is your talent? What's your purpose? After you find your purpose why is it significant? How dare you not use a talent that the most high has blessed you with? If you don't use it, YOU LOSE it!! Do you know how many people would kill for the talent that you posses because they feel like that could use it better than you since you wasting it anyway. You've heard it before....
"Girl if I could sing like that I would be on Broadway".....
"Honey if I had them hips I would be on every magazine cover in this country"....
"Man if I could run like that every NFL team would be knocking on my door"...
"Chile if I could dance like that, Vegas would have my name on a billboard bigger than your house".....
I really could go on and on but you get the point.

You have the nerve to be sitting on your talent but complaining about your job, your life, your situation BUT the tools to create a better life is INSIDE YOU!

I will never stop saying this....DON'T TRY TO FIT IN, WHEN YOU WERE BORN TO STAND OUT! Use your purpose to make yourself Significant! Nothing is going to be handed to you, you have to have the hunger to go out here and get what's yours! You have to have the confidence to show people that you are about your business NOT to be played with! Have the focus and determination to perfect your craft!! Have the desire to want to SUCCEED!

Success is measured on so many different levels...find the one that gives you satisfaction and help someone do the same.

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I lost "Me" inside "Him"

Why do we as women get a man and suddenly lose sight of who the hell we are? We get so quickly wrapped up in this new man that he consumes every second of our day. The people you use to hang with become nonexistant, the things you use to do become a memory and before we know it everything we do involves this man. We eat, sleep and breath him and lose sight of ourselves.

Your old friends began to talk about you behind your back and clown you for never coming around anymore. What's funny is most women love their man more than they love themselves so loosing site of ourselves is something we neglect to even notice. This is proven by the things we let men do to us. We care too much about what they need, feel and want even when that man is dead wrong. Do we even notice that men still continue to do them and live their own lives? Most men don't throw all of their extracuricular activities away for us. They still maintain a balance between their love life and their personal life outside of the female. They still chill with their friends, they still hang out and give themselves time to miss us but we prefer to be all up in their face 24/7.

Now exactly how long do you expect this to last? Don't you know that you take away some of the excitement and the magic when you smother a man with your presence all the time. Give him time to miss you! Give him time to wonder. Give to time to crave you. Give him time to think about you. How can he do any of this if you won't let the man take two steps away from you? You all up in his mouth every time he take a breath.

What Im saying ladies is...you have to continue to take time and make time for YOURSELF. It's essential. It's Healthy for you and for your relationship.

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Make Him Wait

There's nothing wrong with making a man wait. In fact it's the best thing you can do if you plan on building a relationship. Men love the chase, its exciting to them. You have to treat your goods like its the last best thing smokin on EARTH!!! I'm not saying that you have to act like the virgin Mary but what I am saying is everybody don't qualify to enter your heavenly walls.

You need to have a waiting period LOL. Something like a probation period for a new job. I personally think that you should make him wait for at least 90 days. It sounds funny but if you wait you find out that most of the men that enter your life may end up being a regret anyway. If you give it up too fast, you may not end up liking his personality but you wouldn't know what his personality is unless you get to know him first. No need to add extra notches on your belt for a potentially worrisome ass, aggravating, lying ass, broke ass, selfish ass fellow LOL.

I'm speaking from experience. I wasn't always an angel, LMBO BUT when I decided to put special qualifications on myself and my most prized possession I begin to see that men can and will wait and most of them didn't last a full month because of personality differences so wasn't any need to let him have a piece of me. Being Fine is not a qualification. A good talk game is not a qualification. Material things like cars, wardrobe, and etc are NOT qualifications ladies. A man that respect himself and treats you like God couldn't have created a more perfect being... is a man with potential. A man that treats the women in his life with the up most respect is a man with potential. A man that wants to please your mind first is a man with potential.

Sex is so much more better when your mind is wrapped up in each other. You don't know a person until you take the time (key word) to find out key things about each other. Its so worth it. Stop giving your goodies away like everyday is Halloween, its foolishness LOL. Seriously though.

If he cant wait, he ain't worth it.

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